After reading chapter 4, I really was drawn to the idea of
S-TLC. Everyone should really take this concept into consideration when talking
to each other. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen conflicts arise
because people try to talk to each other but they don’t take the time to stop.
Stopping is extremely important because it allows the conversation to not just
be about one person. Communication has to have more than one person involved
for it to be effective, so stopping to allow another person to be involved is
important. Listening is another extremely important function of this. If you
aren’t listening to the other person, there is no conversation happening, it is
just talking back and forth. To really be able to respond to someone, you have
to listen to what they say. I currently coach a high school cheer team. All of
my girls are extremely respectful, but lets face it, they are teenage girls and
typically they talk over everyone around them. While other coaches yell at
their athletes to listen or to pay attention, I constantly yell “stop.” This
really gets their attention because I am not asking them to do anything...at
all…just stop doing everything. Typically this works, because by stopping what
they are doing, they can prepare themselves to listen, to what I have to say,
talk to me about it, and communicate. If I never stopped them, they would never
really take a second to listen.
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