Week 2; Post 2

2). After reading Chapter 2 in its entirety, answer the following question: In what ways do you take a non-process view of communication, relationships, or conflict?  How can you change your thinking?

My entire life I have been known to go overboard in trying to find the good in people or give them the benefit of the doubt. I will never forget one time when my family was in Tahoe and driving, my little brother (who was probably 4 at the time) pointed out that the guy riding his bike next to us was not wearing a helmet. My parents instantly, with no process, tried to praise my brother for knowing that this was wrong; they said something about how "he wasn't very smart because it isn't safe to ride without a helmet." I went into defense mode and responded with "well maybe he fell before and broke his helmet, now he is just waiting for his new one to be mailed to him." It was a weak case but in my head, it sounded a whole lot better then calling some random person dumb. So when conflict arises in my life, I always am the one to give everyone else the benefit of the doubt and find a way to get over it or forgive him or her quickly. It is a struggle in my life to accept that some people are just not being smart or did do something wrong on purpose.

Week 2; Post 1

1). After reading Chapter 1 in its entirety, answer the following question: Some argue that humans have an instinct for conflict.  Do you think it is an inborn trait?  Does it make use more or less human?  If it is innate, is it a valuable asset?

 

I definitely think that conflict is an inborn trait. It is a quality that many other species do not have and it makes humans…well, more human. At an extremely young age, people naturally start to create conflicts. There’s a saying for toddlers that goes “If I want it. Its mine. If you have it. It’s mine. If I’m looking at it. It’s mine. If it is near me. It’s mine” and so on. This desire to constantly take things, especially when someone else wants them is a toddler’s first step towards creating a conflict (if you can’t tell, I work with kids). It is something that no one taught them to do; they wanted those things and did what they had to, to get them. So to me, it is definitely something that we are born with. When it comes to whether or not it is a valuable asset, I definitely think so. Conflict and resolution go hand in hand. Problem solving is a skill that people learn from resolving conflicts and it is a skill that is needed in many different aspects of life or work. So in all, conflict is an instinct for humans and it is valuable once people learn to solve conflicts!

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Hey everyone, welcome to my blog! My name is Bianca, I am a graduating senior and am EXCITED! I currently work a few jobs; I am a gymnastics coach for pre-team and competitive gymnasts, I coach high school cheerleading, and I just got a customer service job at a State Farm branch. I cheered at SJSU for a few years and wish I could continue (the only reason I don't want to graduate). Another thing is that I am one of the Comm Writing Consultants, so if anyone needs a paper reviewed, let me know! I can try and help you while also completing my hours.

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