1). After reading Chapter
3 in its entirety, answer the following question: In dealing with
conflicts, do you find that you tend toward one orientation over another?
Are you satisfied with the outcome of conflicts when you act from this
orientation? Do you favor the orientation all the time or are there
exceptions?
When I deal with conflict I definitely tend to use a
relationship orientation. I am not necessarily a big people person. I have a
few very close friends and my family. Any conflict I have are with those
people. I also do not like fighting. I think that going to bed angry with
someone tends to cause tension in the rest of your life so I really like
solving conflict. A relationship approach allows me to get my point across but
also be respectful and considerate of others. I am typically satisfied with the
outcomes of my conflicts when I use this orientation. There will always be
exceptions where it doesn’t work as well as I’d like but for the majority of
the time, it works. I do tend to favor this orientation unless I am at work
where I cannot be as demanding when I try to make my point.
Hello Biance, your post was really interesting to read. You stated some points about yourself that I could relate to. You said that you do not like fighting. I myself am not a big conflict kind of person. I have friends who I feel can be argumentative at times, and I just am not that way. You also said that you don’t like going to bed angry or upset with someone, that it leads to tension. I completely agree with you. I don’t like going to bed angry either but sometimes the conflict does not have a quick answer to the problem. And some people might need “space” in order to cool down and process their next step. So I can understand the frustrations of being in conflict with people who have a different style than you. Nice work!
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